living with my husband & m.i.l. under the same roof

i have pondered quite some time ago on writing about the above. today somehow seemed not too bad at the office (despite having just completed a fire drill that had me walking 8 floors down the stairs!!)

anyways, back to the topic, i still remember it was rather challenging when i first got married, to know that i was to live with my husband and mother-in-law. not that they were mean or anything, just a little inconvenient to have discussions or rather arguments with your partner in the presence of an elderly person. in other words, tak boleh bertengkar lebih2 la. well, which can sometimes be seen as an advantage, but on the other hand it is also unhealthy to always be sweeping everything under the carpet.

it is also sometimes annoying when you can't have things your way/your say especially when it comes to the kids. often, you will end up looking like the bad guy in the eyes of your child.

while several topics have been heatedly debated off late, there doesn't seem to be any conclusion.

this week though, as i have more space and time to think to myself, i just cannot believe the findings/results of my analysis.

1. It has only been two days without alfy. He left for Penang on Monday for some event job & would most probably be there for a week. And I miss him already.hehehe.....why la? why? and i also wonder how he survives the loneliness when i'm usually gone for almost a week.
2. I cannot comprehend how single parents do it, and GOD, I pray that you will always give us the strength to survive any obstacles in our marriage.
3. I am so very lucky I do not have any s.i.l or b.i.l to talk behind my back.
4. I thought I could never live without my son. Now I realise, I also cannot live without my mother-in-law. She cooks, clean, wash & iron and babysit, day in-day out. 5. I am maid-free and stress-free these days.
6. I lead a healthier live coz I get to eat home-cooked food all the time.
7. I get to party with friends whenever I like without worrying about what's going on at home.
8. Most of all, I must thank her for her commitment and sacrifices that enabled me to concentrate on work at the office and be where I am today.

Having said all of that, I have also realised how much simpler life can be for you when you look at things differently.

It's true when my mother said "You must treat your m.i.l like you would treat me, and if you hurt her in any way, it's as good as hurting me, remember that"...ok, so maybe that explains why i am sometimes rebellious to my m.i.l. hahaha

my boss often tells me how lucky i should be to have a m.i.l who hardly complains and is supportive of whatever i do. mind you, i still do stupid stuff like singing, eating & traveling at every given opportunity.

but really, like my cousin once said, "Life only gives you so many chances, so take it, keep it, hold it, love it & be grateful of what you have"

ok. let me be honest about all this emotional write-up. yesterday went i reached home after work, my m.i.l. made my all time favourite beef ball soup and sweet sour fish. for a person like her who doesn't eat much, plus alfy is out of town, who'd u think the food was prepared for?

peace you all. love yourself. save the earth. hate the government. HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!

what drives you

why is it that everytime before you clock into bed, you'd want to believe you've had it with work and you just don't feel like going to the office anymore and start imagining how interesting life would have been if you were filthy rich and need not work. all this creative thinking stays there a bit until you fall asleep and walaa..next thing you know you are up at 6:00a.m. woken up by the annoying sound of the alarm clock.

and as if on autopilot mode, you head to the showers and dress in your typical-perhaps-worn-twice-this-month-attire, grab some leftovers in the fridge, stash all makeup in a small bag and head out the front door like a bullet train knowing you are going to be late for work. and yet this happens everyday (if you are as lucky as i am, i get to do my makeup in the car while alfy drives me to work).

as soon as you step into your office, you know just where to start. thoughts of yesterday are simply non-existent right now. you go through the day begging for more time so that you can finish all your work,work,work.

despite the mundane routine of having to reply emails, compose new emails, prepare reports & presentation, etc....what else is in store for you that is some sort of a challenge for you?

during one of the media interview earlier this year, a reporter asked me "what is seen as the biggest challenge in performing your work?" not giving it much thought, i said well, to constantly suit the needs of a diversed group of people we have here at the hotel.

i now think that statement is a bit overrated. i now realise what is it that drives me to the wall, and yet once accomplished/tackled, it's like i have won 1st place in a marathon (hmm..not that i actually know how that feels either, coz i'm not a sporty person you see).

Datuk Siti in tha house

ok la....i have to admit that she is pretty and friendly too.

Sheila Majid & A.C. and Mawi in tha house!!

there's just too much to write in here. after months of planning, the much-awaited Secretaries Week event finally took place at Dewan Perdana Felda on April 8th & 15th 2008.

Kudos to Sheila, AC & Mawi for putting together a fantastic performance ala Vegas. From the press conference, exclusive interviews right to the event day, let these pictures do the talking.


it's actually her!


kekwat group photo


another kekwat group photo


lunch buddies




down-to-earth diva, she really is.

alfy's smiling again

after almost a 2-year wait, finally i get to see a smile on my hubby's face. no, i'm not pregnant. and no, we are not moving into a new house this year either, not just yet.

it's a victory on my side, the way i look at it, for having procrastinated long enough to get it done and over with.

yes. alfy's iBook G4 has a new screen now. the used-to-be-a-laptop at one time became a desktop because i accidentally knocked it down onto the floor. how'd it happen? well, the hairdyer wire got stuck and intertwined with the laptop cable and then the rest was history. i still remembered that very morning clearly. afly was in the bathroom taking the shower and hollered 'what was that ???' when he heard a smashing sound. horrified and gaping at at the sight of the laptop, i figured best was to tell him it was the hairdyrer that fell onto the floor instead. hahah. what on earth was i thinking...

anyways, since then, that laptop had become a desktop coz it was connected to a-very-much compatible monitor screen (courtessy of Mak Lan,) Thanx Mak Lan!

anyways, though i know a brand new MACBook pro would have paid justice to all his losses, well at least the iBook is now mobile.

:)

'my day' finally arrived

yesterday was a very historical moment for me. friday, april the 18th 2008, eiman finally uttered the word 'mommy'.after one year and 9 months of desperately trying to get him to say it, i gave up sometime ago when he decided to call me by my name instead.

yesterday though, when he realised how emotionally happy i was at the sound of it, he kept repeating the word 'mommy' as though it was some kind of a magical chant. hehehe..

kak intan, kakak & abang ebi,
yes. i am very much alive guys. thanx 4 constantly being on the look out for this lonely blog. i have not been very kind to it lately, just like how work has not been that kind to me either, off late.

with secretaries' week event now over, i hope i have more time to write from now onwards. well, but then again i have a paper to complete in 1 and a half years time...so how?